Love Language Test

⏱ 6 minutes 📋 25 questions 🔒 Private & anonymous

Discover how you give and receive love. Words, touch, acts, gifts or time — understand your relationship blueprint.

Based on relationship communication research by Chapman (1992). Adapted as an independent self-report assessment.
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Think about how you feel most loved and appreciated in close relationships. Rate how much each statement describes you.
Please answer all questions before submitting.
Question 1
Hearing "I love you" and other verbal expressions of affection means a lot to me
Question 2
Compliments and words of appreciation from people I care about have a big impact on me
Question 3
I feel most connected when someone tells me specifically what they appreciate about me
Question 4
Encouraging words from the people I love motivate me more than almost anything
Question 5
I feel unloved when someone I care about fails to compliment or affirm me
Question 6
I feel most loved when someone gives me their full, undivided attention
Question 7
Doing activities together with people I love — without distractions — is very important to me
Question 8
I feel hurt when someone I care about seems distracted or not fully present with me
Question 9
Having meaningful conversations where someone really listens makes me feel deeply connected
Question 10
Spending focused, uninterrupted time with someone I love is more important than what we do
Question 11
When someone does something helpful for me without being asked, I feel deeply loved
Question 12
Actions mean more to me than words — seeing someone do something for me matters more than hearing it
Question 13
I feel most appreciated when the people I love lighten my load by helping out
Question 14
If someone I care about doesn't do their share or follow through on commitments, I feel unloved
Question 15
I value it highly when people I love take care of practical things to make my life easier
Question 16
Receiving a thoughtful gift from someone I love — however small — makes me feel very special
Question 17
I feel that a well-chosen gift shows someone really knows and thinks about me
Question 18
Forgetting important occasions like birthdays feels hurtful to me
Question 19
A physical token of affection — a gift, a memento, something tangible — makes me feel deeply connected
Question 20
I treasure gifts as lasting reminders that someone was thinking of me
Question 21
Physical closeness — hugs, holding hands, physical proximity — is very important to me
Question 22
I feel most connected and secure when there is regular physical affection in my relationships
Question 23
Going without physical touch for a long time from someone I love leaves me feeling distant
Question 24
Physical contact communicates love and care to me more powerfully than words or actions
Question 25
A touch on the arm, a pat on the back or a hug from someone I care about lifts my mood significantly

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